Category: Life Experience
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The Tension Between PDA and Fawning (People Pleasing)
Fawning: “I’ll do anything to make you like me.”PDA: “I’ll do anything to protect my autonomy.” I discovered a strange tension in me: I want to be helpful and kind, but I also hate being told what to do. That contradiction makes sense now: it’s a mix of fawning (from trauma, also known as people-pleasing)…
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Chaos, Routines and Rituals
The Pattern in Chaos I used to dismiss the idea that I could be on the autism spectrum, and one reason was that my life looked too chaotic. But I now see my world like a thunderstorm: chaotic on the surface, but following meteorological patterns. Routine vs Ritual — What Shapes My Life I don’t…
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Too Many Things Per Second
Someone recently said they had “a million things to do tomorrow.” I replied, “That’s a lot of things per second.” It wasn’t sarcasm. It was math. A curiosity.A sentence that could work on two levels: literal (my entry point) and lightly humorous (their expected tone).It came with an unexpected response. This is how I navigate.…