Tag: PDA
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The Double-Lock: When “I Don’t Like It” Isn’t About Motivation
A Childhood Moment In primary school, during a handball session, I withdrew completely from the game. I stayed physically present but refused to engage. The teacher insisted that I’d join the game, but instead, my mind drifted into my inner world. Then the ball accidentally hit my leg, and my team received a foul. I…
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The Tension Between PDA and Fawning (People Pleasing)
Fawning: “I’ll do anything to make you like me.”PDA: “I’ll do anything to protect my autonomy.” I discovered a strange tension in me: I want to be helpful and kind, but I also hate being told what to do. That contradiction makes sense now: it’s a mix of fawning (from trauma, also known as people-pleasing)…